Hot and cold dating
The first of these is known as the 'infatuation phase' which lasts anywhere from a few days up to twelve weeks.
During this period a romance that seemed very attractive at the start may take on a different hue as the new couple spends time together and begins to learn what the other is like.
When she treats you good, closely and nicely, you feel she likes you. When you can't make yourself in control, it's very high probability that you'll ruin your chances to be with her.
As this happens little habits that irritate, lifestyle choices deemed unacceptable and differences in relationship desires and needs all begin to emerge.
At the end of the night, we kissed goodnight in my kitchen, and I felt like I was floating on a cloud. I managed to move on, but I always thought about him. We laughed and talked and kissed and even held hands. So, why do people choose to be hot and cold in certain relationships? A deep, meaningful relationship is one that is hot and hot.
I went to bed that night feeling hopeful and happy. Then, out of nowhere, two months later, a text from him: “Been thinking about when we can get together again.” Oooh, I burned with anger. Yet at the same time, my heart pounded with excitement. But, the roller coaster ride continued, as after the second night he retreated back into his coldness. What you have to realize if you are dating someone like this is that it has absolutely nothing to do with you! It consists of feeling warmth and of feeling loved and cherished all the time – not just sometimes. Looking back at the hot and cold guy, I don’t feel animosity toward him because I think I was an enabler for awhile, letting him treat me hot and cold. I also feel sorry for him because I don’t think he is capable of the kind of emotional intimacy I want in a romantic relationship.
Contact is reciprocal, time is made to see each other, and forward movement is evident. The hot phase is designed to get you in the gate that leads to the corral, where you’ll later be harnessed. Your partner begins to pull away making you long for their previous attention.
Whether initiated by a cold-shoulder, avoidance, or lack of communication… This phase activates loss, making you yearn for them and wait with bated breath for their call or text. These are the basic dance steps to this type of behavior. This formula is predictable and consistent even when your partner’s reactions are not.
When two people first meet and feel strong chemistry, they often try and make themselves out to be the person they think the other expects them to be.